I have been dressing in one form or another for over 30 years. I have been down so many routes, good and bad, during this period of time it has been a fantastic voyage of self-discovery and great fun. I have made mistakes and gone down rabbit holes I should never have been, have found great and awful friends and enjoyed aspects of life I never thought I could experience.

In Two Minds?

In the last 10 years I have settled, somewhat, with a new partner and found a different calm but still find new alternatives. In my early years things were quite sexual, but now I would define times as being ‘sexy’. I adore the change of my mindset from ‘The Boy’ to ‘Tara’. In my early years when it was all new I was highly driven but now enjoy a more relaxed approach and take things as they come.

First and foremost I am a Transvestite not a woman. I do not feel or identify as female. There is a ‘femme’ aspect to my personality and it is a different part to my whole psyche that I love to visit from time-to-time. The term Transvestite has been bastardised so much over the years by our American and French cousins who define it very narrowly around sex and sexual persuasion. Principally gay! This is not its true meaning to me. I prefer to see it as a form of kink a bit like Cosplay but with a bias towards normality/reality that allows us to indulge in a form of fantasy that normal day-today male life just does not permit. Society governs the norms and we do not conform so we are outside the box.

One of our biggest problems is that we find it very difficult to understand why we are as we are and in turn have a problem in communicating this to the public at large. As a result we are seen as the ‘last taboo’ who does not conform to gender and sexuality types so effectively is ostracised from society at large. However in recent years I have seen a monumental shift in acceptance by the younger generations who no longer see us as freaks, instead we are just a part of the rich tapestry that is life. Unfortunately its a bit too late for the older ones who have hidden it from their partners and family for too long to ever tell them at the risk of destroying family trust.

How Do You View Me?

However for Transvestites there is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ type. We are an amalgam of personalities that have some familiar ground but we are not the same. One thing however I have found very common is that we love the fact that by switching off ‘The Boy’ we can move from our problem solving, results orientated, future planning nature and purely live in the moment for a few hours. This gives us an intense form of relaxation and a very different perspective on life.

This blog was written for two things: firstly to help me understand the way I am and secondly to try to help others who may have doubts and concerns as to why they enjoy this lifestyle. It is not a panacea for all just an expression of my perspective.

Please please please this is not gospel according to Tara it is my view on Transvestism alone and how it fits into my life. These views are personal and not found in some psychology book or science experiment. They are here to help if possible and do read them with a modicum of objectivity. They are meant to make people think about themselves and others that are involved in the Tranny world.

I hope you enjoy the posts and please do feel free to comment as it helps to make sure things do not become repetitive